In the spring of my 13th year some boys found baby garter snakes and were chasing the girls with them. I said I wasn’t afraid (although I was actually terrified) and they put the snakes on my head as I stood still. It worked. They never bothered me again (the boys not the snakes, I’m still afraid of snakes).
Over the years I have had to face many other fears.
- Starting University at 38.
- Raising 4 kids on my own after my ex left.
- Starting a new relationship.
- Ending the relationship.
- Working full-time while studying and keeping my kids in a normal lifestyle with hockey, track and field, figure skating, drama, bands.
- Years later starting another relationship.
- Quitting my day job to work from home on my own.
Every day there are challenges that come up and every day I have a choice to face them or hide from them. Things like frozen pipes, toilet backing up into my kitchen sink. (Not everyday things, but it happened more than once until I wrapped my pipes with heated wire.)
I confess there are some days I just want to curl up somewhere with a good book and let the world go by, but life carries on regardless, so I get up and do what needs to be done.
In the past few weeks I have read a couple of books that have shown me I am not alone in facing fears and overcoming them.
One of these books was Elizabeth Gilbert’s Big Magic. Another was Brene Brown’s The Gifts of Imperfection. Both of these books spoke to me and helped me to recognize fears that I still held inside. Brene’s tips to cultivate self-compassion were insightful. Elizabeth’s words helped me to move forward with my book of poetry. To get it ready to share with the world, regardless of the outcome!
What fears are you facing? What help do you need to face them?