Believe in Yourself

Do you believe in yourself?

If you don’t, who will?

One of the biggest stumbling blocks on the path to success for many is a lack of confidence.  Some may say that procrastination is their problem, but the underlying cause is often a lack of belief in our ability to succeed.

The fear of failure often holds us back and keeps us from achieving our dreams.  Do you find yourself making excuses to yourself and others about why you can’t start your projects or achieve your goals?  These excuses lead to procrastination and giving up on your goals.

Have you ever felt that it is safer not to attempt something rather than attempt it and fail?  You are not alone, but this is one of the major differences between those who get ahead and those who fall behind.

One of the best ways to overcome the fear of failure is by reading about others who have already learned that any failure is a step closer to success.  Michael Jordan, a basketball legend, once said:

I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career.  I’ve lost almost 300 games.  26 times I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed.  I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life.  And that is why I succeed.

Would you consider Michael Jordan a failure?  His failures paved the way to his success.  Check out my post on famous failures to read about Walt Disney and many others who failed time after time, but kept on pursuing their dream.

Many of our beliefs are rooted in our childhood.  Maybe we weren’t good at something, or as good as a sibling in something and we grew up with the belief that “I’m not good enough”, or “I can’t do that” even thought we don’t even try.

Do you think there is no hope for you?   That you will never achieve your dreams and goals?  I have good news for you.  It is possible to change your self-belief and take positive action to change your habits and become a success.  I’ve got good news for you – many people have done it and you can too.

Increasing your self-confidence is something you can do by yourself in small steps.  Start by choosing something new that you have seen others do with success.  Commit to being brave for 30 seconds and give it a try.  No matter whether you achieve it or not, you will learn something about yourself and by repeating small winning behaviours many times, they will become a part of you.

Improve Your Self-Image

Here are some really simple things you can do.  Start with the way you sit, walk or stand.  Pull your shoulders back and stand tall.  A confident person stands straight where a person with no confidence may appear slumped over and defeated.

Make eye contact when talking to people and remember to smile.

When you speak, speak slowly and clearly.  Speaking fast is a sign of nervousness and sometimes others are not able to understand what you are saying.  It also gives the other person the impression that you are in a hurry to end the conversation with them.

Your self-esteem is based on your capacity to love and like yourself.  Self-esteem is a set of beliefs and values by which you define your self-worth.  Low self-esteem makes life much harder in both your personal and professional life. Having more self-esteem enables you to face life’s challenges with confidence.  Self-confidence is believing that you have the ability to achieve success.

Strategies to Strengthen Your Self-Confidence

  • Strive for excellence instead of perfection
  • Use positive self-talk
  • Celebrate every success
  • Give genuine compliments to others
  • Accept your imperfections
  • Avoid trying to impress others – it’s YOU that counts
  • Tackle goals one step at a time
  • Ask for help when you need it.  The ability to ask is a sign of strength
  • Relax, take a few deep breaths and refocus your mind
  • Take care with your appearance.  When you know you look great, you feel great about yourself as well.
  • Start the day right with a positive morning routine.

Positive Affirmations You Can Use

Writing down your affirmations will help to increase your awareness of which phrases are not effective and which statements are contradictory to your goals.  It will also help solidify the ones you want to stick.  Reading, speaking and writing your affirmations will improve your mind faster than if you choose only one method since the mind accepts information in all these ways.

Pay attention to how you address yourself as this can have an impact on your success.  A study revealed that individuals who used the word “you” when writing self-talk were found to do better compared to a control group who used “I”.  It was thought that using the word “you” reminded them of their childhood and receiving encouragement from their parents, teachers and friends.

  1. You are worthy of happiness and success
  2. You choose to give priority to how you want to live.
  3. You are ready for success
  4. You are making your life better every day
  5. You have what it takes to make your dreams a reality
  6. You easily pursue your goals with confidence
  7. You are unique and special just as you are
  8. Your circumstances are not who you are
  9. You are not afraid of failure, disappointment or being hurt
  10. You are strong and courageous

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Fran

About Fran Watson

Work from home Career Counsellor helping people with resumes, cover letters and interview tips. Recently published an e-book on Resumes and Cover Letters That Work (www.franwatson.ca). Member of Toastmasters and life-long learner.
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