Yes You Can

YES YOU CAN IF YOU THINK YOU CAN

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Yes You Can – What you do makes a difference

Is there something you have been thinking about doing but you just keep holding back, fearing that you don't have what it takes?  You can do it if you think you can!!  You just need to develop a more positive mindset.

Yeah, sure Fran, that sounds great but you don't know my life.  You don't know how I've tried and failed, how I've been put down, walked on….

Well, maybe I do.  My life hasn't been perfect by any means.  I was married at 18 and divorced by the time I was 38.  At that time I had 4 kids 3-14 years of age to raise.  I was working full time and working on my degree.  I didn't know if I could really do it but I decided to try.

I almost gave up on the idea when I got my first assignment back and saw the big red “F” at the top of the page.  I had completely screwed up one section and got 0/20 points and then in another section the professor said I must have done the test incorrectly – another 0/20.  My kids rallied round and encouraged me with hugs and so I kept going, one assignment and one course at a time.  I graduated in 2000 after 13 years of studying.  I believed I could and I did!

You might want to also check out my blog post about staying positive

So again, what is it that you have been holding back from trying?  What steps are you going to take this week believing that you can do and achieve what you want.

Remember, YES you can if you think you can.

Fran Watson

franlwatson@gmail.com

P.S.  If what you have been stumped with is working with PLR and how to use it, Kelly McCausey has some great information here

Or if you have accumulated LOTS and LOTS of notes and information and need help to put everything in order you might want to check out Kelly's Ideas In Order

P.P.S.  Stay tuned for an opportunity to get in on a new course on Developing a Positive Mindset.  Let me know if you are interested in hearing more about this.

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Home Organization before Marie Kondo

Home Organization

Home organization is not something new.  Did you know that before Marie Kondo there was William Morris.  He was the first to say “Have nothing in your homes that you do not know to be useful and believe to be beautiful.” And he said it back in the 1880’s.  Imagine… this is not as new as we might have thought, but Marie Kondo certainly capitalized on this.  She hit just at the right time, just as Mr. William Morris did in his day.

William Morris was a poet, craftsman and designer who founded the Influential Arts & Crafts movement crusading against cheap shoddy furniture and mass produced decorative accessories in Victorian homes.

Mr. Morris urged Victorians to get rid of the ugly, the useless, and the uncomfortable in favor of simple and honest furnishings.  Marie Kondo urges people to get rid of what doesn't bring them joy.

Embrace Simplicity

Maybe you have already begun to take a look around your home and think about what you would like to keep and or get rid of.  If not, then take some time now to begin with a pad and a pen and really take a look at your surroundings.  Allow some time to think on paper and process before you act.  Think of the purpose of the room and what you do in it.  What do you need to make it work for you.  This is especially important if you are working from home.

Work on one room a month.  Commit to this by putting it on your calendar so you can take your time to decide what you really need and give the rest away to a local charity or to a friend.

My recent flood has allowed me to really think about what I want to put back into my house.  Currently I am staring at the bare walls and imagining what they will look like when they are covered in drywall and I can put my things back.

house empty with just framing and bare walls

Home organization needed here

You may want to begin with your junk drawers (come on, admit it, you have them too).  Do this in small installments – 1 drawer at a time.  Don’t overwhelm yourself and don’t just move things to another junk drawer.  I recommend you do this alone and throw out what hasn’t been seen or used by anyone in months (or even years….).  Give yourself a gold star on your calendar for each drawer you clean out!!

Spring Cleaning aka Home Organization 

Henry David Thoreau believed that “our life is frittered away by detail.”  Clearing things up helps us focus on other more important things.

Abigail Telford recommends spring cleaning as an opportunity to pause for introspection – to make a mid course correction in our stressful lives.

Spring cleaning can be a psychological lift to confront our emotional clutter as well.  Maybe it is time to shake out that mental closet and establish some emotional order in your life.

Why not take some time in the morning and in the evening to reflect on your day.  What can make it go smoothly?   What changes can you make in your mindset, your daily chores, your workday, that can bring you more peace and satisfaction?

Take time to nurture your soul.  Do something just for you.  Take 15 minutes to read something, listen to music, or just meditate.  Commit to this daily so that it becomes a habit and helps you improve your concentration.

To begin, find, or make, a comfortable place where you can do this.  It might be a cozy chair by the fireplace, or a comfy corner on the living room couch, or perhaps a sunny spot in the kitchen overlooking the garden.

Today, consider what you need to create your own personal nest that comforts both body and soul.  Then begin to create it.

Fran

P.S.  Tell me…What are you going to do first?

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Staying Positive

How do you stay positive when hit with disasters?

March has not been kind to me.  It started off with a flood in my house which happened at 10:00 at night.  I contacted my boyfriend (who has a Shop Vac), the Township (to bring a backhoe to clear the ditch), and a company that does flood restorations.

By 2 am the water had flowed back out of my house and we had vacuumed up what was left.  The restoration company arrived with fans and dehumidifiers in the morning and my daughter arrived to help out with tossing all the books and papers that had been on my floor and were now sopping wet.

You see, I don't have a basement, I live in an old house in the country which doesn't have any storage and my whole ground floor had flooded.  It took us about 3 days to go through all of that – 35 bags or so of wet garbage.  A few days later a dumpster was placed in my driveway for all the destroyed items.

Losses

I lost my bed couch, 3 tall bookcases and 2 regular ones, plus numerous books which had been on the low shelves.  Luckily this is mostly covered by insurance, but I have yet to see any costs or proposals for getting my place back to normal.

Also luckily my boyfriend offered to put me up for as long as it takes to get my house back to normal.  I have a room in the basement to work in, although that room flooded too just after I moved all my stuff in.  Thank goodness my sister had come up to help me organize and she helped me move everything off the floor and we vacuumed for the weekend.  I got to move back into the office after the floor dried – about a week later.

Hard Drive Crash

Unfortunately when I was moving my computer and my hard drives upstairs to work my main hard drive with all my business information on it crashed.  My boyfriend, who is a tech guy, could not restore it and so it had to be sent out to be retrieved.  The company was great and had it back to me within a week – at a cost of $2039.  However, I do have all my files and I will just have to work a little harder or find some other ways to increase my income to pay it off.  I set up a special offer of a Confidence Kit (valued at over $47) for just $17. and have had a few people purchase it to help with the cost.

Staying Positive

So how to remain positive when your house looks like this?

house showing bare walls and framing

My living room after the flood

I think about the people in the Ukraine who are being shot at and bombed.  I think about the people who have lost everything when their homes have been flooded and have nowhere to go.  I think of the people who are homeless and don't have a place to stay or food to eat.  I think of the blessings I have of friends and family who are there for me.  I think of how nice my house will look once they put back the walls and floors. I think about the fact that I have a bed to sleep in and an office to use.

How do you stay positive when bad things happen to you?

Fran

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Do You Use Prompts?

USING PROMPTS – A POEM’S STORY

The time has come the poem said
For you to write that I might be read
And so I took my pen in hand
And wrote the words at its command.
The words spewed forth as I obeyed
The poem wanted its glory displayed
It shimmered, it glowed, it shone with delight
It showed off its power as I brought it to light
The words began running and singing and dancing
And then quiet and sorrowful and then into romancing
Up one side, cross over, now run over there
Now quickly, now slowly, now gently, more care
Swiftly they tumble, they rush and they pour
Then suddenly they stop I hear them no more.
Where do they come from and where do they go?
Alas its unfortunate I really don’t know
If I knew I could coax them to come out and play
When I chose, instead of awaiting their stay.
But life is just like that, it ebbs and it flows
Like words in this poem it comes and it goes
We know not our journey, it’s only begun
We just step out there and walk towards the sun
And slowly or quickly our journey is ore
And just like this poem – there is no more!

(from my book “From My Heart” )

Using Prompts When Writing Blogs and Emails

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Using prompts to help when writing

Have you ever had a time when you began to write your blog or your email and the words just flowed onto the page without even thinking?

And other times when you stared at a blank page for what seemed to be hours with nothing happening?

I think most of us have encountered both sides of this problem. That is why it is handy to have prompts. You might use journal prompts or tv shows, or news stories, or maybe a headline you saw.

It’s a great idea to keep a file folder (either on your computer or in an actual paper folder) or things you have seen or heard of that you think might make a good story. Maybe some things that have happened to you or to your friends.

What type of articles, newsletters, emails do you like to read?

Is there a particular person whose emails you will always open?

Any others that you rarely read? (if so, why are you still on their list? I have been asking myself that question recently.)

How To Find Prompts

If you’re tired of struggling with ideas for blog posts, social posts, podcast ideas and other content, you’ll love Sue Fleckenstein’s monthly prompts  I am currently a subscriber and will be digging into my prompts for my weekly emails in the next while.

Here are some examples from Sue’s prompts:

– Who are the most important people in your life?
– What can you do to get closer to your dreams?
– What are some negative thoughts you would like to stop having?
– What are some of your best positive thoughts?

Have you ever used a headline creator?

Using a headline creator around a keyword can also give you some great ideas for content for your emails or blogs. The other day I tried one and got 700 headlines. A lot of them I would never use, but a lot of them could be workable.

Tell me, where do you get stuck?

Cindy Bidar has some great tips on her Email List Podcast

P.S. I have a great opportunity for you – grab 10 free credits at PLR.me and find some great info you can use to send to your list.

P.P.S.  I just received this really cool gift from SARK this morning. Super Inspiring Writer + Creator’s Alphabet Game! 


“Play with this and you will activate, magnify and MOVE your writing dreams and desires to new wisdom-filled places. ”

This just in – great minds think alike – found this info in my inbox  by Heather Ritchie:  https://writerslifeforyou.com/book-blog-post-ideas/

Hope you too can benefit from the information shared by these great people.

Fran

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Treasures

What treasures are you overlooking?

This is from the Introduction in my recently published book From My Heart. 

I wrote the following after reading Sara Ban Breathnach's book Simple Abundance – the quote is from her book.

“Excavating is not glamourous work on an archealogical dig. It demands painstaking effort in often harsh conditions. Tons of dirt need to be removed carefully from the site if the search to uncover treasures from the past is to be successful. No matter how impatient everyone on the dig is, the excavation process can not be rushed.”

As I read this I thought about how each piece of material in a dig is examined closely to discover its significance and purpose. If a dig is rushed, precious pieces of the past may be destroyed or at least broken and rendered less valuable. Also in the rushing some valuable items may be overlooked – a tiny gemstone discarded as a lump of dirt when all it would take would be a gentle touch, some brushing or some water to clear away the dirt and reveal it's brilliance.

How often do we rush the process of discovering ourselves and miss the true brilliance of our lives, of our gifts and talents? How often do we dismiss them as inconsequential, too tiny to be of value? We forget that a small diamond may be worth far more than a large amethyst. What have we missed or dismissed in our lives?

Perhaps it's time to slow down and look more carefully at our past, to see where we came from and how that links to our present. Maybe we missed a valuable piece along the way that we can recover, and which may lead to a major change in our lives or a better appreciation of who we are now.

Where are those soft brushes? That water? Let me learn patience as I uncover my treasures!

Memories

This morning as I was thinking about writing this week’s newsletter I thought about the times when I took my kids to the local flea market.  There was a man there who had a “dig” for kids (and parents) to find treasures.  Sometimes they didn’t find much, but occasionally they would find some gems.  We once found a large blue topaz and another time some jade.  I had a necklace, ring and earrings made out of the blue topaz and a necklace and ring from the jade.  The kids had a great time digging for treasures each week.

I went looking for these gems this morning and discovered a treasure trove that I had forgotten – necklaces, rings, bracelets, earrings and more.   A veritable abundance of treasures hidden away in my drawers.

Have you ever discovered treasures you had forgotten about?  What were they?  Please share…

treasures in a jewelry box

A box of treasures

Speaking of hidden treasures.

I have been a member of Cindy Bidar’s 6 Figure System  for quite a while. I didn’t realize ALL the treasures I had inside there. I am currently taking her email course and realizing that I am still learning new things about emails, despite having already taken a couple of others.

All my life I have been interested in learning. I have, as I think I have previously mentioned, many books….many, many books. Some of them have become what Melissa Brown termed “shelf-help” books   These I am starting to sort through and box up, recognizing that some of these I will never get around to reading. After all I am 73 and I think it would take me another 73 years to read them all!!

What do you like to learn about? Do you have a special hobby that you are passionate about? Do you like to try different things? I have always thought I would like to learn how to operate a spinning wheel to make yarn. Now that things are opening up again, I will see if I can find a class.

Fran

P.S.  You can sign up for my emails here… I'd love to see you.

 

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Time For Some Self Love

Self Love – How long has it been?

Isn't it time for some self love?  How long has it been since you first had that dream? You know the one you had as a young child – maybe to be the best ___, or to win ___, or to write a book, climb a mountain, set up an online business….

Are you there yet? What is stopping you?

How long has it been since you let yourself just be free – not worrying about what anyone says or thinks about you? Are you being controlled by others? Are you a people pleaser?

How long has it been since you laughed loud and long with friends? Has this pandemic reduced your contact with loved ones? How have you coped with it? What have you done to brighten your days?

How long has it been since you cried over a lost love or a lost moment, or a perceived failure? Have you moved on?

How long as it been since you took the time to really listen to your heart?

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Self love – You carry the passport to your own happiness

Take time for self love

Is it time for you to show yourself some 💖love 💖?

Think of things you can do for yourself.

What is a luxury that you have dreamt of?

What simple thing can you do for yourself each day? Perhaps it might be a quiet coffee or tea in the morning before you start your day, or a mid-afternoon break.  Maybe it's taking the time to write in your gratitude journal.

Do you ever tell yourself you are being selfish for wanting time to yourself?

Maybe it’s time for a change.

When we practice self-care, we are not only helping ourselves, but we are also helping others as well.

Self-care can provide us with several health benefits, including improving our immunity, increasing our positive thinking and mindset, and making us less susceptible to stress and other similar emotional health issues.

Dump the drama and toxicity. Stop creating or feeding into drama. Remove toxic people from your life. Expect the best & believe it will happen. Don't think about ‘what if's', instead focus on what you will gain with the positive outcome.

Acknowledge that failures happen. They are an acceptable part of learning.

Following a healthy diet, making sure to exercise regularly, and getting enough sleep are all habits you can adopt now to get you on the road to beneficial self-care for your body and mind.

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Take time for self love first

February is 💖HEART💖 month. Here are some ways to give yourself some love this month.

Begin each day by looking at yourself in the mirror and say out loud
“(Your name) You are fabulous, lovable, wonderful, and valuable!”

Turn it into a declaration. Stand strong and say out loud
I am fabulous, lovable, wonderful, and valuable!

Say these statements with ownership, pride, passion…Breathe into the words, and take them into your heart and body!  Let go of feeling foolish or self-conscious. It’s time to own the truth about who you really are!

Here are some more ways to show self love:

1. Notice when you are being too harsh with yourself. Your natural state is love.  Pay attention to your thoughts, self-talk and how you speak about yourself to others.

2. Treat your body with love and respect. Do you prioritize your self-care? Look for ways to honor your body and your needs as the treasure you are!

3. Do something every day that brings you pleasure. What makes you feel good and brings you joy that is positive and uplifting? Do you pamper yourself and do things that make you smile?

4. Commit to the relationships in your life that lift your heart and feed your soul. Look for opportunities to be more engaged with the people you love. Ask for help and allow them to love in return by being there for you when you really need support.

5. Engage in daily spiritual practices to connect you with your “Essence” and Divinity. Cultivating the relationship with The Divine invites us to look at life through the eyes of love – to embody love with ourselves and those whose lives we touch.

6. Do something crazy that is out of character for you. Sign up for a marathon, go mountain climbing, scuba diving, etc. Learn something new. Take a class, read a book, watch online videos. How about a stand-up comedy class? Laughing at yourself and making others laugh is a great way to build confidence.

7. Move your body. Get in shape without joining a gym. Take up martial arts. Learn to line dance. Go someplace nobody will recognize you and cut loose. Be bold. Laugh out loud. Sing. Dance.

8. Act confident. Dress like the person you want to be. Wear bright lipstick. Stand like Superman, tall and confident. Mirror the actions of other confident people. Be bold. Teach a class. It doesn't matter the topic, just do it.

Start in February, but please continue to take time for 💖self-love💖 every day.

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What's the next step in your self love journey?

All the best
Fran

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Lacking Confidence?

Self-Help Tips for Dealing with a Lack of Confidence

Did you know that many people say that they have social anxieties? It’s right up there with public speaking as one of the biggest fears.

Social fears are one of the most common issues that a lot of people face or claim to face. It may be worse for some than for others, but social fear is a pretty universal issue.

Many people suffer from a lack of confidence. This is nothing to be ashamed of, though. Unfortunately, it’s been a part of our society for a while now, making it a common problem.

There are some ways in which you can learn to face social fears without having to drop out of society. Most of these tips are easy to accomplish.

If you have issues that exceed these tips, you may want to consider getting some professional help. You may have social anxiety and need mediation or stronger help to get yourself on the right path.

* Start Small – If you are ready to make a huge change in your life and face your social fears, don’t choose to start with speaking in front of 1500 people. Instead, start small with a small group like a “meet-up” group, or a reading group. Get a little bit out of your comfort zone, and then build up to more.

* Plan Ahead – Most people are nervous in social situations but if you plan ahead, you’ll be more relaxed. Practice introducing yourself, and if you have a good friend ask them to practice your handshake too.

Being more comfortable around people starts one step at a time, and practice will help it feel more familiar.

Ways people have been able to deal with their lack of confidence.

1. Live in the moment.

When you live in the moment you can focus on the now rather than focus on the past where you experienced your hurt and encountered your fears. You can then be unconcerned and hopeful about your future without the pressure of your past looming up behind you and making your confidence plummet once again. This mindfulness tool takes time to master as it can be hard to ignore the past making its way back into your mind.

2. Develop awareness.

When you’re aware, you can notice how you are acting during certain situations. That way, you’ll create space between your emotions and actions, helping you to respond to someone or something in a healthier way.

3. Write in a journal.

Many of our thoughts and feelings are stuck inside the subconscious part of our mind. By writing, we are able to release those thoughts. Once you’re done writing, look over what you wrote and try figuring out why you felt a specific way.

We can also separate those negative thoughts we tend to have about ourselves from the truth behind who you actually are; a unique person whom can do whatever they set their mind to.

4. Don’t be judgmental.

When we approach our lives without judgment, we are able to accept ourselves, our experiences, failures, and successes. On top of that, we are more open to accepting others just as they are, whether they are good or bad.

Some measure of social fears come from our own poor judgments of not just ourselves but others. We think that if we are so judgmental then other people are too. So, to avoid that judgment we just avoid the situation entirely. If you learn to stop being so judgmental you’ll be able to be less afraid. Learn to accept other people’s differences and personalities as just being human. Being human is perfectly acceptable.

5. Stay connected to who you are.

By doing this you are able to establish a connection with yourself and reduce possible people-pleasing habits. Don’t always think of other needs over your own. You are just as important as everyone else is; don’t forget that!

Many social fears come from wrong-headed beliefs that something is wrong with you. You don’t think enough of yourself, and you think you’re weird or somehow “wrong.” But, nothing could be further from the truth. Most of us have something different about us; if we were all the same it would be quite boring. Embrace your differences and accept yourself for who you are.

6. Practice mindful meditation.

Meditation allows you to let go off the negative thoughts that invade your mind on a daily basis. Don’t accept those damaging thoughts, feelings, emotions, and beliefs as part of who you are.

Take time out of each day to take a couple deep breaths and slowly feel the negativity leave your body and mind.  When you feel the anxiety coming on, stop, and take a deep breath. Breathe in slowly through your nose, filling up your lungs completely, and then breathe out slowly through your mouth. One or two slow breaths can help you overcome your initial fears fast.

7. Let it all go.

Often the things you have such low confidence about no one else notices. When you accomplish letting all of the negative thoughts leave your mind, you create a certain trust within yourself and choose what’s best for you.

Just because you’re afraid of something doesn’t mean it’s real. You may have all sorts of ideas in your head about how your voice sounds, how you look, and your perceived awkwardness. But, the truth is, most people are so tied up in their own fears that they don’t even notice that you’re nervous. Fearing something doesn’t mean it will actually happen.

8. Show yourself some love.

Everyone deserves compassion, whether it be from yourself or someone else. When you tell yourself how much you love you, you’ll gain a sense of strength, safety, and acceptance.

Everyone has things they aren’t confident about, whether it be about themselves or a situation they aren’t comfortable in. Each one of us is unique in our own way, but sometimes we forget that. So before getting too down on yourself, remember who you are and remember that you are loved and supported by the people you carry close to your heart.

9.  Take the Leap

Most of the time, fear is worse than the actual situation. Even if you’re doing something scary like getting a shot, or an operation or bungee jumping – the worry leading up to the event is much worse than the actuality of what you are doing. If you take the leap and jump in with both feet, you’ll find that your fear level drops substantially.

Fran

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Fresh Start – New Year Resolutions

Fresh Start - New Year Resolutions

Fresh Start

When Riley turned 30 he was unhappy to still be in a sales job he never really liked.  He decided it was time to stop procrastinating and find a new job.  Unfortunately he made the mistake of quitting his sales job without having something else in mind at a time when good jobs were a little harder to find and is still unemployed and looking.

For Sue, New Year’s Eve had her looking in the mirror and vowing that this time she would stick to her diet, while Mark was trying to get control over his angry outbursts.  “Next month I’ll do better”, he said to himself.

If you’ve ever vowed to make a change, to start over, you are not alone.

New Year Resolutions

At the beginning of the new year many people join the gym with good intentions to get fit.  This can also happen when something new happens in your life – a new relationship, a move, even a new month.  Researchers have a name for this – The Fresh Start Effect. (see more here) and here

Research shows that at certain calendar points – a new month, major birthday, etc. we are more prone to assess our lives and try putting our failures behind us to start over.  Wanting to be better we look for a fresh start.

This year we are still under the impact of the Corona virus with new versions coming out.  Places are closed down, businesses are suffering from lack of staff, some people are fearing for their lives, while others proclaim conspiracy theories.

When will it end.  Some believe that this is the end of the world as outlines in Revelations – wars, plagues, natural disasters, etc.

My Fresh Start

As I look at my role for this year and look at what steps I need to take, I wonder what 2022 will bring to my life.  My plan is to be more focused, to have regular blog posts and emails, to learn more so that I can share more and develop a passive income.

My first fresh start for this year is to work with Jennifer Burke on an email challenge, to write 30 emails in 30 days.  This starts today and I have already sent out my first email.

How have you seen the Fresh Start effect at work in your life?

What goals (or resolutions) have you come up with for 2022?

Happy New Year

Fran

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Christmas Gifts

Christmas Past

As my girlfriend’s son tore open the Christmas card I had given him he shouted out… “Who’s the cheapskate that only gave me $10.?”

I wanted to disappear.  His mother reprimanded him but the damage was done.

My friend had a great job.  She could afford to give her kids TV sets and other large Christmas gifts, but what she appreciated most from me was simple friendship.  The joy of being able to talk about anything and share failures and triumphs.  Someone she could count on to be there when times got tough.

As a single mom with 4 kids I struggled at Christmas and often wrapped up food items so my kids would have something to unwrap – a bag of their favourite cookies or breakfast cereal that they didn’t have to share.  Packages of hot chocolate in their stockings along with an apple and an orange.

That Christmas changed my gift giving to others.  The next year I gave her kids shoeboxes filled with homemade cookies.  They were a big hit (and less than $10 each)

I continued to do homemade Christmas gifts each year – chocolate truffles, cookies, scarves – until they grew up and moved away.

I remember one year my son’s girlfriend watched him unwrap a gift of cereal.  She said (with a tone of horror) “Your mom gives you food for Christmas?”  He turned to her and said: “Yes, isn’t it great!”

One year I gave my son a miniature Starship Enterprise.  He forgot about everything else and played with that for hours.  Another year I made my youngest son a Canada flag bedspread – he was thrilled and took it to college with him.

Christmas Present

I still give my kids food at Christmas – a small hostess gift of their favourites when I visit – a bag of Starbucks coffee, some pepperette sticks, some cheeses, cookies and a bottle of maple syrup from a local business.

Christmas gift giving has changed a great deal over the years.  We have drawn names so we only have to buy one gift.  We have set limits on the dollar value.  We have done a crazy Christmas sock exchange.  We have done family photos.

This year we (my boyfriend and me) bought just for the grandkids – something to unwrap and some money for their education fund.  He and I make charitable donations to causes we support as gifts for each other, and occasionally some consumables like food for the birds.

What I learned

  • Gifts don't have to be expensive
  • Gifts that come from the heart are better
  • Gifts handmade with love tops cash or a purchased gift
  • Just because you can't compete at a monetary level doesn't mean you can't give a meaningful gift.

When you take the time to notice what people like during the year, you can make Christmas extra special.

What do you do for your Christmas?  Do you have a special tradition?

All the best to you and yours this Christmas season and Happy New Year.

Fran

P.S.  Here is my favourite Truffles recipe.   You can have so much fun using different toppings such as sprinkles, powdered sugar, coconut, crushed nuts (different types) and it makes a lovely gift in a tin or gift box.

https://www.eaglebrand.ca/En/Recipes/Classic-Chocolate-Truffles

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Confidence Makes Anything Possible

Self Confidence

Having confidence means knowing your own self-worth, what you’re good at and conveying it to others. But who has the time to explore their self-confidence?

We’re living at a time when appearances can be deceiving, and it’s very easy to lose yourself in all the hype of how we should dress and talk and eat and act – social media has everything laid out for us.  Just take a look at Facebook and Instagram and TikTok….

The truth is everyone’s self-confidence fluctuates every now and then.

Let’s be honest, who isn’t afraid of failure?

But confident people have learned to overcome that fear. They have a set of ideals and values they follow and aren’t afraid to speak their mind. They know their likes and dislikes, their passions and beliefs.

Confident people don’t seek others’ approval before their own.

Their happiness doesn’t depend on how others see them.  It comes from the inside.

Constructive Criticism a.k.a. Feedback

Confident people are quite willing to accept constructive criticism because they know how to use it and become stronger for it.

You will find that confident people will praise the success of others and rarely judge or are overly critical of what other people do or say. You will also find that they tend to avoid negative people since negativity can be contagious and powerful.

Asking For Help

Do you have difficulty asking others for help?

Do you feel you have to do everything on your own?

People with a high sense of self-confidence aren’t afraid to ask for help.

They’re aware that they don’t know everything there is to know and that it’s okay to seek the help of others. Another great quality of confident individuals is that they are willing to try new things and are open to new ideas.

And if they make a mistake, they use it as a learning experience instead of beating themselves up for failing.

Confident people are constantly challenging themselves, and as a result, enjoying more of what life has to offer. Maybe they’re learning a new language or how to play the guitar; the point is they embrace life and are living it full out.

When you’re comfortable in your own skin, people tend to sense it and somehow take some of that confidence with them into their own lives. Shrugging off negative thoughts becomes second nature, and replacing that negativity with a more positive, balanced outlook on life becomes easier.

The more you feed the positive, the stronger it becomes, boosting with it your self-respect and worth.

You know that saying, “practice makes perfect.” Well, it goes for building up your self-confidence as well.

Through continual practice, your confidence increases and you become more adept at listening to your inner voice.

The things you do every day can either make or break your confidence. 

To becoming more confident every day

Fran

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