Be Who You Are

“Robin’s Top 10 Tips To Be Who You Are”
By Robin Rice

The best thing about being who you really are is that you simply cannot fail. You do it successfully 24 hours a day. Yet the essence of who you are is often covered by all the defenses, insecurities, and adaptations that have accumulated over the years. It is like wearing five pairs of pants, six shirts and two hats. Sure, you are being who you really are, because you’ve chosen to add those extra layers. But can anyone really see the True You? Can you see her clearly? The following tips will help you begin the process of peeling off the layers. Each one invites an action that will help you unveil the True You.

#1 Get To Know The True You
Think of the “True You” as an advisor to the “you” that you act out day to day. Stand in front of a mirror, call her forth and start talking. Ask questions. Listen. Let your eyes lose focus and see what images appear. See how it feels to stand so close to the True You. Cry if you’ve missed her. Get angry if you feel she’s abandoned you. Touch your fingers to the mirror and thank her for coming. Ask her to help you begin to live a life that is more authentic. Find out what she suggests you do next.

#2 Make A Space To Call Your Own
Create a space that is dedicated to the True You. A whole room would be ideal, but even a top shelf of a closet will do. This powerful statement says, “I’m worth the space I take up.” Decorate it with passion. Perhaps you will make an altar to the True You, put your favorite books in creative stacks, or spread out beloved life souvenirs. Visit often, and when you do, plant seeds of hope by writing down wishes on tiny pieces of paper. This is the garden in which you are growing your own greatness.

#3 Learn What You Really Want
There is only one way to learn what you love, like, and really want. Start experimenting now. What really lights your fire? What simply passes the hours in ho-hum? Like Julia Roberts in the movie Runaway Bride, we must try our eggs in every style imaginable, and not simply follow the preferences of our companions. After you’ve sampled what is obvious, dare to keep searching by ordering off the menu even though it is costly and plenty of good eggs will go to waste. Every great painter wastes paint and every queen once wasted time as a princess kissing frogs. Only those who have never experienced “great” will find your experimenting foolish.

#4 Dare To Be Average
They say the strongest enemy of Great is Good, and that is true. But demanding that you be great at everything is a sure fire recipe for enjoying nothing. To get off the “gotta be top rate at everything right now” steamroller, make a list of everything you think it’s really okay to be average at. Mowing the lawn. Decorating for parties. Keeping the car clean. Understanding opera. Buying wine. When you’ve done an average job with something on this list, say “good enough” and let it be. Hear the True You breathe a sigh of relief.

#5 Picture Yourself Becoming The True You
Take out your favorite magazines to make a collage. Cut out any words or images that express the “you” as you are right now and paste them on the left. Then, moving to the right, depict the True You that you see yourself becoming. Be sure to include your hopes and dreams. Look at your creation often and feel yourself smile.

#6 Come To Your Senses
Wake up to the simple pleasures. Go into a completely dark, quiet space (this may require everyone else be asleep) and peel a sweet orange. With your sight and hearing purposefully impaired, you will have automatically heightened your sense of smell, touch and taste. Feel the dimpled texture of the skin, sniff the pure fragrance, and enjoy the stunning explosion on your taste buds. Remind yourself that life is good.

#7 Watch Your Language
Listen to how often you use the words “should” and “ought.” Each time you catch yourself using one of these words, ask yourself “Says who?” and question why they get to make up the rules. Are they wiser than your True Self? If you can’t replace “should” and “ought” with “want,” reexamine the issues at hand.

#8 Be Moody
You heard me right. Stop stuffing those bad moods in the vain attempt to be nice and easy to be around all the time. Be sure to let those who might be adversely affected know that it’s you, not them, at the root of the mood, then let them come on. Dance with them. Ask them what they are trying to say. “Off” moods come from the True You, too, and they are saying something about a part of you that needs attention. Every light has it’s dark, every up has it’s down. Let’s all give each other a little more room for the down and dark so that wholeness has a chance to enter.

#9 Invest In What You Believe In
Give your time, energy, money, vote, and encouragement to anything that reflects a message you want the world to hear. You don’t have to be the one with the voice, so long as you are supportive of those who speak your truth. Just as it takes a village to raise a child, it takes a thunderous chorus of authenticity-bearers to make a new message heard.

#10 Forgive Yourself
If you are human, you are precious and imperfect. Now is the time to accept that and forgive yourself for all the ways you believe you have failed. Take a ceremonial forgiveness shower. Using a favorite soap, wash yourself in your own compassion, imagining the deadness of unresolved pain and guilt going down the drain. Thank the pain and guilt for serving its purpose, which was to let you know your own true values. Step forth whole, authentic, and free to make new choices with the True You as your guide.

NOTE: This article first appeared in Natural Beauty and Health Magazine.

This article is free to use under the following conditions:
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Thanks Robin for this great article.

Fran Watson

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Living A Full Life

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Live Life Fully

Look Inward To Live Life To The Fullest

What do you do on a daily basis with living a full life in mind? If you’re struggling to think of anything, that’s okay, you’re not alone. Here’s the thing – you aren’t going to enjoy every minute of every day, bad things will happen – whether it’s a car accident, a fall, illness, financial struggles or the loss of a loved one.

But that is just a part of life and these things don’t stop you from living your life to the fullest, and there is also no need for a monumental achievement daily to tick that box.

The Big Three Questions

 If you’re trying to determine what it is that you really want from your life and what will help you live a full life, then ask yourself these questions and rely on your intuition to understand what you’re trying to tell yourself.

 1. What Does Your Heart Want Right Now?

Right now, at this very moment – what do you want? Empty your feelings onto a sheet of paper and review it later. It might not make a whole lot of sense initially, it’s essentially free writing to direct you. It isn’t about doing something because your brain is telling you to, it’s about relying on your intuition to lead you.

 2. What Are You Feeling Right Now?

Follow your intuition and sense where you are being led, no matter where it may be guiding you. Emotions aren’t always wise, but your intuition is, so listen to your gut. This will help you filter out some of what you have written as you’ve let yourself flow onto the paper. It’s part of the process required to make sense of what you’ve put down on paper.

 3. What If It’s Different Than I Imagined?

Nothing is ever as you expect it to be. If you are truly following your purpose it won’t matter whether it unfolds as you imagined, there’s a good chance that it will be even better. It’s important to remember, though, that even when chasing your dreams there will be bumps along the way. Life can never be perfect, but there is something about life’s imperfections that make it worth living.

What Limits You

 We all feel held back by assumptions and expectations at various points in our lives. We are comfortable in the box that we have created for ourselves, at least, that’s what we tell ourselves. In truth, we’ve allowed ourselves to become trapped in a box with a trap lid. What assumptions could be limiting you from making progress in life?

  • I can’t earn less than X to live a happy life
  • I’m too old for this
  • I’m not good enough
  • My marriage won’t survive this change
  • I don’t have what it takes
  • I don’t have the necessary skills
  • I don’t have anything to offer
  • I’m too tired
  • My life won’t be better than this
  • There’s nothing special about me

Getting Started

 If you’re considering something career related, why not volunteer in a place related to that purpose? It’s a great way to see if it really is what you want and get a better feel for things. Alternatively, you could shadow someone who is in the career you want for yourself and see what happens.

If your purpose isn’t career-related, it should be much easier to launch yourself headfirst into it. When you are lying on your deathbed, those limits won’t mean much.

The key to living a full life is finding out what really matters to you, determining what you want, and going after it full force.

To living your best life

Fran Watson

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Quotes on Goals

“All you need is to know what you want, and to want it badly enough so that it will stay in your thoughts.”

— Wallace Wattles: American author

“You can never get rich, or start the creative power into action,
by sending out unformed longings and vague desires.”

— Wallace Wattles: American author

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Forming A Clear Mental Picture of Your Goal

“You must form a clear and definite mental picture of what you want; you cannot transmit an idea unless you have it yourself.”

— Wallace Wattles: American author

Goal setting is crucial to accomplishing great things in life. Like the oxygen to our dreams, goals are what take us forward in life. Without goals you lack focus and direction. Not only that, it also provides you a benchmark for determining whether you are actually succeeding.

The common meaning of goal is something that any person wishes to achieve but only we ourselves can truly define our unique goals to ourselves.  The chances of a person achieving his/her goal can depend on various factors as shown by multiple research from various fields of study. While some pursuits of success are limited by certain factors, there are others whose success grows on different factors.

The most habitual mistake during the planning stage is to ignore the importance of setting goals. In fact, most who do not understand that specifying goals for both the short term and the long term cannot find purpose, meaning or even inspiration in their efforts to achieve the goals set.

Goals are not just tasks on a to-do-list which you can tick off once you’ve completed it. Goals can also be stepping stones to a bigger cause in life. Therefore, we should define our goals clearly enough before we set out on our journey.

The Key To Achieving Your Goals

Setting goals is important. But creating action items related to those goals is the key to making them a reality. It is much easier to perform smaller chunks of work than it is to wing it towards whatever goal you are striving for.

A blog or journal can really help you plan out your steps to reach your goal. You can keep a daily or weekly journal whatever works best for you. Many people start off by using a weekly journal and then switching to a daily one. As they find that writing down accomplishments and struggles is really helpful, plus it acts as a reference in case the situation happens again.

"You must form a clear and definite mental picture of what you want; you cannot transmit an idea unless you have it yourself." — Wallace Wattles: American author

Calendars and planners in all forms are available online. You can even download apps to your iPhone, iPad or other mobile device. This makes sure you can access your planner regardless of your location.

To your goal setting success

Fran Watson

P.S.  You can download a goal setting checklist right here Checklist

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Creating Powerful Goals

In reviewing information on creating powerful goals that I had in my files, I came upon this article by Mitch Meyerson and I realized why I have difficulty in achieving my goals as I read the first 3 questions.  This article provides excellent advice on creating your powerful goals.

10 Keys To Creating Powerful Goals

March 6th, 2010 | Author: Mitch Meyerson

I’ll bet you have heard most of your life that effective goal setting is essential for success.   Why then do so many of us fall short on this essential business and life skill?  The answer is complex and there are a variety of psychological reasons

However rather than digging into the “why”, we will first quickly assess where you stand then use the following 10 tips for developing more powerful goals. Start by asking yourself these 3 questions:

1) Do I have clear, written and measurable goals for my business and personal growth?

2) Have I created specific action steps required to achieve each goal?

3) Do I regularly track and measure the progress of each of my goals?

If your answer is no the ten keys below will help you to become more effective with your goal setting efforts and achieve more measurable results in your business.

“People with clear, written goals, accomplish far more in a shorter period of time than people without them could ever imagine.” Brian Tracy

In my 2005 book Success Secrets of The Online Marketing Superstars I interviewed legendary author, Mark Victor Hansen about goals.  He is the co-author of the best selling series in history Chicken Soul For The Soul knows quite a lot about developing BIG goals.   Here are his tips about goal setting:

1) Your most important goals must be yours.

Not your spouse’s. Not your child’s. Not your employer’s. Yours. When you let other people determine your definition of success, you’re sabotaging your own future.

2)  Your goals must mean something to you.

When you write your goals, you must ask yourself, “What’s really important to me?” “What am I prepared to give up to make this happen?” Your reasons for charting a new course of action give you the drive and energy to get up every morning.

3) Your goals must be specific and measurable.

Vague generalizations and wishy-washy statements aren’t good enough.  Be very specific!

4) Your goals must be flexible.

A flexible plan keeps you from feeling suffocated and allows you to take advantage of genuine opportunities that walk in your future door.

5) Your goals must be challenging, exciting.

Force yourself to jump out of your comfort zone to acquire that energy and edge.

6) Your goals must be in alignment with your values.

Pay attention to your intuition, your gut. When you set a goal that contradicts your values, something inside will twinge. Pay attention.

7) Your goals must be well-balanced.

Make sure you include areas that allow time to relax, have fun and enjoy people in your closest circle.

8) Your goals must be realistic.

Be expansive but don’t be ridiculous. If you’re four feet tall, you will probably never play in the NBA. Also, be sure to allow yourself time to get there.

9) Your goals must include contribution.

Unfortunately, many people get so wrapped up in pursuing their goals that they don’t have time in their lives to give something back to society. Build this into your goals program.

10) Your goals need to be supported.

Either selectivity share a few of your dreams with a number of people, or share all of your dreams with a select few people. In either case, you’re creating a web of support and accountability for yourself.

Open your mind to all the possibilities. Start each goal with “I am” or “I will.” Don’t even think about restricting yourself!


Your Coaching Action Step: Review the list above and write 5-7 specific 3 month goals (e.g. 10 new clients, 1000 new subscribers to my mailing list) then write the specific steps you will take to get there and track your progress every day!

by Mitch Meyerson

Thanks Mitch

My goal for today and the next two or three days is to reread this list in order to create my powerful goals as to date they have been a little wishy-washy.  I wrote them down, but did not develop a plan to achieve them.

To building creative and powerful goals

Fran Watson

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Another Day of Working On Goals

Another Day of Working on goals – Yesterday’s goal was creating a memorable birthday party for my mother who turned 98.  She wanted a parade, so we created a parade of family members with balloons and drums and music.


She also got to meet her newest grandchild who is just 5 weeks old.  They had a special moment together.

We took a picture of the 4 generations – Mom, Me, My son & his wife, and the baby.

Today’s goal was to work on some Lead Generation info, attend a webinar on 5 Tiny Tweaks to make to build your audience and work with my 5 career clients.  I also slipped in a visit to my mom this morning.

How are you doing on your goals?  Please comment below.


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Procrastination and Goal Setting

Procrastination is a killer when it comes to goal setting.  It is so easy to just write everything down and look at it, but in order to achieve your goals, you need to take action and that’s when procrastination can set in.

Brian Tracy said: “Committing your goals to paper increases the likelihood of your achieving them by one-thousand percent!”, so if you have written your goals down as I have, you are headed in the right direction.  However there is more to achieving them than that.

Brian Tracy gives this advice:  “Rewrite your major goals every day, in the present tense, exactly as if they already existed.”  When I look back at my list of goals, I have been accomplishing some of the minor ones, but the major goals of creating a product, setting up a funnel, etc. have been left.  Procrastination.

Goal Setting

I have been working through my list, listening to podcasts (great information, but not requiring a lot of effort on my part), reading tips (again, not requiring me to really DO anything), but last night I finally sat down and reworked something that I had in my file about Goal Chunking.  There is more to be done, but at least I got started.  Today I will create the link for the download and that will be on my blog tomorrow so that you will have a chance to check it out.

No More Procrastination

Onward and upward…have you started working on your goals yet?

Fran Watson

Setting Goals

P.S.  Here is a quick sample of what I am working on BreakBigGoalsIntoChunksNew


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Goal Achievements Day 4

Goals Achieved Day 4

Listened to another podcast from – Daniel Hall

Cool Tip from this podcast  – setting up a Micro-mini membership site using Amazon’s Kindle  – danielhallpresents/getcode  Something to add to my list…

Yesterday I attended a live streaming of the International Speech Contest and was very impressed by the quality of speeches.  It was tough to choose, but history was made as the top 3 winners were all women.

Today I also attended Tom’s training session on How to Make Money by Speaking… which is my other interest…

I actually bought one of Tom’s packages many years ago – Make Em Laugh.  He is the one who actually got me interested in public speaking.

Some great ideas on how to use content:  “Books ebooks CDs DVDs MP3 audio files laminated cards pamphlets online video membership sites tele classes paid newsletters both online and physical webinars consulting coaching mentorship programs all of these ways to sell your knowledge show your depth of knowledge way better than a few minute demo video. So they stimulate speaking engagements.”

Okay.. so now my brain is on overload with all the info Tom Antion provided.  Time to decide what I am going to focus on for tomorrow.  I think it will be putting emails (at least  a month’s worth) into my GetResponse.

How about you?  What is your focus?

Fran Watson

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Day 3 of my Goal Setting Challenge

Day 3

What have I accomplished so far from my list of goals?

Jeff Herring’s interview fell right in line with my challenge as did The Strategy Hour which was on how to get customers.  Jeff offered a content download that I can use.

This morning I took a look at a product I purchased from Content Sparks and watched a video that showed me how to use this in order to create my own products, which is also one of the items on my list.

I have been thinking about priorities for my list and one of the things I need to do is to create a product that I can sell, so this is what I am going to work on today.

What are your priorities for the next week?


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Reviewing Goals part 2

It seems that this is the direction I should be heading as I got the following message on my Messenger:

I spent 2 hours on the Facebook posts and have two of my pages up to September 30th

I will post more tomorrow.


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